Several years back when anyone asked me how I was doing, my answer was always negative. I’m exhausted. I’m crappy. I would be better if I wasn’t here. You know, the basic not-actually-thinking-but-just-saying-something answer. I had people around me that gave the same responses and one day I finally realized, man this is awful! Who is going to want to talk to me if I’m ALWAYS having a ‘bad’ day. And truthfully, most of those days weren’t actually bad. I have no idea why I always said something negative.
After that, I made a point to never answer a question with a negative answer again. If someone asked me how I was doing I would think a little about it and say, ‘fine’, ‘great’, ‘fantastic’. I really think that small change helped turn my life around. As a result, I can’t stand being around people who are constantly negative. You know the type – they never have anything good to say. Every conversation with a negative person is so mentally draining because you spend it trying to convince them that life does not actually suck. You’re not ugly. Your hair looks great. You aren’t fat. When a friend is having a bad day, it’s easy to say these things to try and help them back to the bright side. But when every conversation is this way, I find myself not wanting to talk to them anymore.
I’ve found that I’m a happier person when I am around happy people. I thrive off of other people’s good moods. They say laughter is infectious and I believe that applies to happiness too. I hope that my happiness rubs off and helps others to be happier.
I encourage all people to think about the things that they say. If most of what you say is negative, make a point to change your way of thinking. Not everything is as bad as you make it out to be. Changing just a few negative thoughts into positive ones can drastically change your life!